Why It’s Okay To Be Your Own Kind Of Beautiful

I love to go on holiday, maybe a little more than most. But when I’m not on a plane or drinking champagne, I’m hustling away in my office GirlBoss style. My office is white and pink and it’s filled with vision boards, books, white boards and A LOT of fluffy cushions #SorryNotSorry.

be your own kind of beautiful

I spend my days writing, filming, advising and talking. The dream for a chatterbox like me. I also dedicate a lot of time to empowering women to step into their own, which is easier said than done.

be your own kind of beautiful

One of my biggest challenges to date, is getting clients to practise self-love. I’m not talking the champagne kind of self-love. I’m talking the ‘I am beautiful’, ‘I am worthy’ and ‘I love myself’ kind of self-love. Why as women are we so critical of ourselves? And more importantly, why do we feel the need to constantly compare ourselves to others?

be your own kind of beautiful

I’ll let you in on a little secret. My girl crush is Eva Longoria but unless I lose 6 inches, I’m never going to be 5ft2. Equally, I’m never going to be petite. The best I can do is follow workouts from Kayla and hope for the best. I’m ok with that. In fact I’m more than ok with that because I’ve fully embraced who I am and I love my uniqueness. It’s not every day you get asked ‘which part of China are you from?’ but when I do, I chuckle to myself, give my husband that knowing look which says ‘it’s those almond eyes again’ and I politely inform my counterpart, that I’m not from China, but I’m in fact half Peruvian.

be your own kind of beautiful

In today’s world, almost everything is online and there lies the problem. Gone are the days of advertising in yellow pages or putting an ad up in your local post office.  Thanks to Instagram, Twitter and Facebook, making yourself visible has never been easier and seeing what your peers are up to hasn’t either.

be your own kind of beautiful

When Turquoise Holidays rang me up back in January to collaborate in The Maldives, I almost fell off my chair. I then proceeded to giggle nervously and tell myself they must be joking. They weren’t of course, but I couldn’t help but put myself down.  At the time, I had just over 1000 followers on Instagram and no more than 2000 on Twitter. I didn’t have the big ’10k’ that everyone refers to and I don’t have that now. But they saw past that. They loved my content and my personality and that was enough. If only all brands could be like that!

be your own kind of beautiful

From thereon in, I made a promise. A promise to never compare myself to anyone again. Who cares if my following isn’t that big compared to others? I have passion, dedication and skill which for me is enough. I am proud of who I am and what I’ve achieved and I encourage you to praise yourself also. We are all unique and we all have our own journeys in life. If you do anything today, don’t compare. Be your own kind of beautiful.

Maggie xx

 

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  1. Becs
    October 27, 2017 / 6:43 am

    ❤️

  2. October 27, 2017 / 7:36 am

    This is so true Maggie! Thank you for writing this brilliant post, I believe a lot of bloggers buy followers anyway but I believe great content and passion always shines through!

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:52 am

      Thank you for your lovely words Helen! It’s a funny old world isn’t it….maybe time will tell but yes you’re absolutely right, content and passion always shines through! x

  3. October 27, 2017 / 9:01 am

    What a lovely post!!

  4. October 27, 2017 / 10:08 am

    Such a lovely post Maggie and I’m sure just what so many of us need to hear, myself included! You’re doing so incredibly well lovely, congratulations on getting such wonderful opportunities x

    Jenny | LuxeStyle

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:50 am

      Thank you so much Jenny! You are doing so incredible too – forget about everyone else journeys as it’s not important. Focus on you and what makes you happy xx

  5. October 27, 2017 / 11:03 am

    Love this post Maggie and I’m so glad I found your blog. You’re completely correct when you say that comparing yourself to others is damaging. I wonder how often this happened to my grandma when she was my age?

    Abigail Alice x

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:49 am

      Thank you for your lovely words Abigail! Yes, I don’t give comparison the time of day anymore but I see so many women who do which is a shame. I would love to have witnessed how the other generation lived too because I bet this didn’t happen anywhere near as often as it does now! xx

  6. October 27, 2017 / 11:12 am

    Hi Maggie,

    So after having been truly devoted to your Twitter – I finally got my way around to visit you blog! And this was the first post, that I read! Now I am even a bigger fan! This is exactly what I needed to read today, as I find myself 9 weeks pregnant I was starting to wonder, if I am going to be “less interesting” with a big belly and one the plus 40 bloggers! But you just gave me motivation to stay on track! I love your reflections – and I love your pictures as well.
    Thanks for sharing
    Love from Louise

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:47 am

      Hi Louise – thank you so much for your beautiful words and enormous CONGRATULATIONS on your wonderful news!!! How exciting!!! Please don’t wonder or worry about being ‘less interesting’ because you will be anything less than that. You will encourage, inspire and motivate others (myself include) that it is absolutely possible to continue blogging with baby in tow! I can’t wait to follow your journey! Maggie xx

  7. Gabrielle
    October 27, 2017 / 2:23 pm

    This is such a warm and beautiful post Maggie – definitely taking your advice on board, not to compare to others! One of my all-time favourite quotes is ”comparison is the thief of joy” and wow, isn’t that true?! Your home office sounds really pretty and totally with you with regard to it not always being about the big following. You’re hands down one of my top 5 favourite travel bloggers!!

    Have a fabulous weekend!

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:43 am

      Thank you so much for your lovely comments Gabrielle – you’ve made my day! Yes – forget about comparing yourselves to others. You have such an amazing blog and are my favourite fashion blogger. Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t look back xx

  8. October 27, 2017 / 2:34 pm

    Lovely sentiments! I’m a glass half full gal so also get really frustrated when I hear or see my amazing friends both on and offline compare themselves to other and think they aren’t good enough – I think as long as we focus on doing what challenges, pushes, and makes us happy, then everything is going to be alright!

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:41 am

      Thank you for you lovely comments Connie and I completely agree – it’s such a shame when girls compare themselves constantly. We should be focusing more on ourselves and what makes us happy 🙂 x

  9. October 28, 2017 / 8:11 am

    Hands down, your most inspiring post yet! Self love is the best kind of love because everything rolls on from there. I think doing what makes YOU happy will not always please everyone but the fact is, you’re doing something YOU enjoy – and I think the more people compare themselves to others, the more it becomes a vicious cycle that leads to self doubt.

    • October 30, 2017 / 3:40 am

      Thank you Honey!! I completely agree – it’s all about Self Love, building up a strong mindset, believing in YOU and forgetting what everyone else is up to! xx

  10. October 30, 2017 / 9:47 am

    Hurrah! Be true to yourself and good things will come. I’m a true believer in this. Like my mother used to say if you don’t love yourself you can’t expect anyone else to.

    • November 3, 2017 / 6:35 pm

      I’m so with you!! But so many people aren’t which is why I really wanted to do this post. I want women everywhere to understand that it’s not about obsessing what other people are doing but focusing on your own journey and loving yourself for who you are xx

  11. Suze
    October 31, 2017 / 2:16 pm

    What a lovely article, you’re wonderful as you are, Maggie!

  12. November 1, 2017 / 2:36 pm

    100% 100% 100% LOVED this post so so much

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